I like a good romance novel. There, I've said it.
BUT -
Lately, I'm having a lot of trouble reading them. It seems that they are all about a man with power choosing his ideal partner. And the woman trying so hard to be that perfect partner.
Regency romance is generally less offensive to me than modern romance stories.
Some of the female characters are OK. They are their own person, but the male is still the one with power.
When one person in a relationship has all the power, the relationship is unbalanced. Regardless of what the other person can do to influence things, the one with power will always have the final say in any decision.
I started reading one of the endless series of modern billionaire stories that are coming out. Not that there are that many single billionaire men, but the number of stories certainly give that impression. Well, again, he is in charge of sexual couplings and can give, demand or withhold sex at his discretion. It's his decision.
No.
It is NEVER his decision. It is always the women's decision if she is going to have sex or not. These stories are so unbalanced, I had to stop reading it.
I can't listen to some music. The lyrics refer to women as "bitch" "whore" and worse. They promote physical violence against another person. I tend to stick to older rock music and classical music with no words. I like singer-songwriters like Carole King and Billy Joel. Still, some of the recent music can be disturbing. There is a song called "His Name is Luca" that is very disturbing by an artist I like.
I have to be careful what I watch on TV. I like Hogan's Heroes. Yep, it's old and corny. It's about a US Colonel who manipulates and lies to a German Commandant during WWII and makes it seem like it's OK to do those things. It is NOT OK to do those things. When I first started watching TV again, I didn't find a lot I could stomach. I stick with NCIS - Gibbs is a good guy. But it's a very patriarchal world that's depicted. Most of the world IS patriarchal, though.
I was with a friend yesterday. We were having a discussion about what I'm thinking about doing with my hair. I want it shorter, off my neck. But because of my face, I also like it below my chin. I've seen someone with the cut that I'm interested in, and can describe it to a stylist. I was describing this to my friend....
This woman - my friend, said it was a "lesbian thing" to have my hair cut in that fashion! Like being a lesbian is so bad, or that a hairstyle can tell a person's sexuality.
This woman continually says that a mutual friend painting a color streak through her beautiful gray hair is a mark of lesbianism. That mutual friend is very religious, and not a lesbian. In fact, she is happily married for over 25 years.
I think this woman is no longer my "friend." She is now an acquaintance. We obviously see things very differently. As long as I've known her, she will not be educated about feminism.
Being whatever gender a person chooses is totally up to them. If I identify as straight, lesbian or bisexual is up to me and my sexual partner. NOT SOMEONE ELSE, and even if I am/were/desired to be - a lesbian, who cares!!!
That is totally sexist thinking.
Being a woman is NOT inherently worse than being a man.
Being a lesbian is NOT inherently worse than being straight.
A boy is not a "sissy" because he likes softer, nurturing things in his life.
Being a "sissy" is not bad - the judgment that makes it bad is that being a woman is bad.
THAT IS SEXISM!!!
My sexuality is my personal business. I don't air my sexuality online. I was born female. I identify female. The rest is private. How I use or don't use that sexuality is private, unless YOU are my partner. And then it's between you and me - EXCLUSIVELY.
We are influenced by the stories we tell ourselves.
We are influenced by the entertainment we seek.
We are influenced by the music we hear.
We are influenced by the friends we choose to spend time with.
We must guard our lives. Our spirits are influenced by those things with which we surround ourselves. To raise the vibration, either limit or remove those things which will lower spiritual vibration. Do not expect to raise the other to your level. You can only do that - raise the world - by raising yourself. It's too easy to fall back. It's so hard to move forward. Choose the higher path - move forward and upward. Do not be pulled back to lower thinking.
BUT -
Lately, I'm having a lot of trouble reading them. It seems that they are all about a man with power choosing his ideal partner. And the woman trying so hard to be that perfect partner.
Regency romance is generally less offensive to me than modern romance stories.
Some of the female characters are OK. They are their own person, but the male is still the one with power.
When one person in a relationship has all the power, the relationship is unbalanced. Regardless of what the other person can do to influence things, the one with power will always have the final say in any decision.
I started reading one of the endless series of modern billionaire stories that are coming out. Not that there are that many single billionaire men, but the number of stories certainly give that impression. Well, again, he is in charge of sexual couplings and can give, demand or withhold sex at his discretion. It's his decision.
No.
It is NEVER his decision. It is always the women's decision if she is going to have sex or not. These stories are so unbalanced, I had to stop reading it.
I can't listen to some music. The lyrics refer to women as "bitch" "whore" and worse. They promote physical violence against another person. I tend to stick to older rock music and classical music with no words. I like singer-songwriters like Carole King and Billy Joel. Still, some of the recent music can be disturbing. There is a song called "His Name is Luca" that is very disturbing by an artist I like.
I have to be careful what I watch on TV. I like Hogan's Heroes. Yep, it's old and corny. It's about a US Colonel who manipulates and lies to a German Commandant during WWII and makes it seem like it's OK to do those things. It is NOT OK to do those things. When I first started watching TV again, I didn't find a lot I could stomach. I stick with NCIS - Gibbs is a good guy. But it's a very patriarchal world that's depicted. Most of the world IS patriarchal, though.
I was with a friend yesterday. We were having a discussion about what I'm thinking about doing with my hair. I want it shorter, off my neck. But because of my face, I also like it below my chin. I've seen someone with the cut that I'm interested in, and can describe it to a stylist. I was describing this to my friend....
This woman - my friend, said it was a "lesbian thing" to have my hair cut in that fashion! Like being a lesbian is so bad, or that a hairstyle can tell a person's sexuality.
This woman continually says that a mutual friend painting a color streak through her beautiful gray hair is a mark of lesbianism. That mutual friend is very religious, and not a lesbian. In fact, she is happily married for over 25 years.
I think this woman is no longer my "friend." She is now an acquaintance. We obviously see things very differently. As long as I've known her, she will not be educated about feminism.
Being whatever gender a person chooses is totally up to them. If I identify as straight, lesbian or bisexual is up to me and my sexual partner. NOT SOMEONE ELSE, and even if I am/were/desired to be - a lesbian, who cares!!!
That is totally sexist thinking.
Being a woman is NOT inherently worse than being a man.
Being a lesbian is NOT inherently worse than being straight.
A boy is not a "sissy" because he likes softer, nurturing things in his life.
Being a "sissy" is not bad - the judgment that makes it bad is that being a woman is bad.
THAT IS SEXISM!!!
My sexuality is my personal business. I don't air my sexuality online. I was born female. I identify female. The rest is private. How I use or don't use that sexuality is private, unless YOU are my partner. And then it's between you and me - EXCLUSIVELY.
We are influenced by the stories we tell ourselves.
We are influenced by the entertainment we seek.
We are influenced by the music we hear.
We are influenced by the friends we choose to spend time with.
We must guard our lives. Our spirits are influenced by those things with which we surround ourselves. To raise the vibration, either limit or remove those things which will lower spiritual vibration. Do not expect to raise the other to your level. You can only do that - raise the world - by raising yourself. It's too easy to fall back. It's so hard to move forward. Choose the higher path - move forward and upward. Do not be pulled back to lower thinking.
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